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I cannot say I am 100% surprise on how things turned out in my social life. I finally understood that people change. I just never thought it would happen to my friends. I am not sure if I mentioned it earlier, when I was entering grade 12 I switched schools. Reasons being that I had way too many friends( which were my biggest distractions) at my school. I also really wanted scholarships and to finish my year with awesome marks. Which did happen alhamdulillah ! :)
Old School Vs New School
Anyways, the old school I attended only had about 7 hijabies in my grade. 2 being twins who wore extremely tight clothes, one transformer, and 2 I.Bs (smart kids :P) Nabila (-.-) and me. I found that everyone at my school didn't really practice except those two I.Bs girls mashallah. I was not very close with them.They didn't really have many friends and I understood why . My old school and being religious did not mix.
I would say about 60% of the students were Muslim at my new school. Unlike my old school they avoided haraam things. Wearing reavealing clothes and dating each other was not normal here. As it should be.
I met these wonderful friends, we automatically connected and I honestly love these girls . These girls were very good influences on me and I even stop eating unhalal food (is that even word...Idk I am going to use it) .Overral I was happier and better because of them. It was comforting knowing that my new Muslim friends were not judging what I wore, ate, why I didn't date, or why I did not want hang out with guys.
Believe it or not my MUSLIM friends from my old school thought I was too uptight and thought I was weird for those things and more... You think them being Muslim also would make them understand why I was who I am, but NO0O0O0O0 I was just being a prude! -.-". So sometimes I felt discluded with them. I was actually better of hanging with non-Muslims. I actually have one viet/Chinese friend who would make sure I didn't eat unhalal or reminded me not to do things that were haraam. Bless that girl.
University 1st Year
So we all finished high school and went our separate paths. I am still good friends with them all and I thought nothing would change. Nope not our group we were too awesome for that, smarter than that. If anything I thought Sufi's group ( some girls last name, not the religion kind lol) would have more complications. They were those Muslim girls who cared way to much about fashion, celebrities, and dating. I still liked them they were cool and always happy, it seemed to me.
My friends had made some stupid choices. Since we were in uni/college we had so much freedom. We could come home whenever we wanted because our parents didn't know exactly what our schedule was. University was nothing like high school the times were scattered. You could have a class as late as 9pm. I was never much of a liar, I always called my mom after I finished a class, once I hit the train and once I got on a train etc. I pretty much always updated my mom, I guess old habits are hard to kill.
With their new found freedom they decided to fool around with boys, alcohol, and drugs (weed). This made me very upset, no it actually angered me. They were pretty knowledgeable too. My best friend got herself into a spinning world of sin. She is smart, beautiful, and an all round awesome person. So it SHOCKED me when I found out she was flirting with evil.
It reminds me what this niqaabi once said to me. When we hit uni girls will typically do two things:
1. Become more religious ( What I aspired to do)
2. Take their hijab off and what not..
She told me this in high school and I never believed her. I guess she was right .
I talked to my bestie about her change and make dua for her. I don't know if she even wants to come back. I don'tt want to be like 'you do you' because that what bad friends do but, she left me at no choice. I never want to her about the sins she commits anymore. I told her don't tell me what you do, she already knows how I feel about it.
Funny thing is that my older brother told me he really liked her and she as a good friend to keep around. If only if he knew who she has become he would tell me to "Drop her like a bad habit." sigh. He told me "On the day of judgement we will be resurrected with the people you love. Do you really want to be near her on that day. Someone who commits all sorts of sins and probably does not feel bad because they have repeatedly done it?"
What would be your answer?